Friday, April 3, 2009

I must admit I'm a bit confused...

isn't it customary to only have one baby shower? You know, for your first child? And though family and close friends may give you some gifts for succeeding children, isn't it a bit tacky/selfish to continue to have them? I mean, I guess you could argue the point that you could have one shower for your first girl and one for your first boy... but even that's pushing it. Just something I've been thinking about this morning. Shrug.


10 comments:

Jen Nelson said...

Bravo Lauren, bravo!

I see that every baby should be celebrated but why not have an open house or a come meet the baby party? Are people that desperate for attention and free stuff?

If you need to have a shower then maybe you shouldn't have that many kids?

Erin said...

For my second baby I opted to get my sisters-in-law and my mom together for a girl's day instead. We got pedicures, went to lunch, and finished my baby shopping (my mom had given me a little money). Perfect alternative. You can still celebrate the baby without the whole shower.

Kenna said...

I admit I must agree.

Maybe it is the 'infertile' in me being a jerk, but this makes sense, no?

Erin, I love your idea. You even had a little girl (as your first was a boy) and you opted to do that. Kudos.

Erin said...

Oh I forgot that the girls in my ward threw me a shower too... That's usually just an excuse for a party though. I told them to bring frozen meals instead of gifts. Some brought gifts anyway.

The Pritchett Clan said...

You speak wisdom. It is tacky beyond tacky to have a baby shower for your umpteenth kid. (especially when it is not a different sex) The people who like you will get you a gift anyway and you don't have to play a bunch of stupid games:)

Eliza said...

Agreed. But I am raising my hand that I did have a baby shower for my second child that was the same gender as my first child. I did not ask for it (I was beyond shocked that it was offered) and though I tried to say it wasn't necessary they were dead-set on the idea. I told them that gifts were NOT needed but people still brought them. But for my situation, it was really wonderful because I'd just moved clear across the country away from all family and friends. That baby shower was the first time I felt like I was making new friends and could rely on the people here.

So, I'm just saying... in some circumstances I think it's quite helpful and a blessing.

lauren said...

eliza,
i think there are almost always exceptions to everything, and i think that in your case (and in others)there are times when such an event is warranted. (and yay for lovely people who are so generous and kind!) thanks so much for bringing that up, because i think it's really important. :)

i was mainly questioning the practice as a whole, under relatively "normal" circumstances. especially after hearing of an instance where a person is having a shower for her fourth (that's right, fourth) child that is the same gender as the rest of her children.

it's at this point where i think said practice is a bit on the ludicrous side.

Kimba said...

I think so. One shower is plenty. Wouldn't that be like having a shower for your anniversary? I mean, sort of? You've got all the basic items (crib, stroller etc.). I've heard of welcoming party's, but no presents involved.

Cliff, Kendal and Stone said...

Until I moved here, I just thought women only had one shower, but I have friends in our ward on their 2nd, and we have been throwing showers like crazy. They have been different gender, but I agree w/Erin. I think it's been a good excuse for parties AND they're all grad students. So everything helps when you're in grad school.

Cami said...

Honestly I had no idea people had more than one baby shower. I really thought you just had one for the first and your done. Strange...It would have never crossed my mind.

The octomom would have bankrupted all her friends!